1. So beautiful and hit me hard! I felt the same way about my mom coming to the births of both of my children. She even bought a 4-wheel drive vehicle because Austin was due in December and she wanted to make sure she would be able to get here from Texas! She has been gone for 16 years now and it is STILL so hard. Sending you love and hugs!

    1. So sorry to hear you have been without your mama for 16 years. I can imagine how that hurt never goes away. And then when it comes to living forward, I’m sure you’re feeling the legacy burden like I am. We both have outstanding caring genes that have been passed down. Great to hear from you. Take care!

  2. This is so, so good, Lori. Thank you for sharing such wise words even in the midst of a time of grief. You are in my prayers.

  3. Lori,
    I just revisited all my feelings thru tears when reading this after i lost both my parents and they died 10 years apart. I can only imagine losing them 4 months apart and somewhat unexpectedly. You have such words of wisdom and insight. I love you and have been thinking about you over these past few weeks. You and Dell have raised 3 amazing young adults and you are so right a part of you they will carry forever. What a beautiful testament to you as a godly mother, wife, friend and servant. 😘😘

    1. Now I am shedding tears…again. I know you understand this pain and it doesn’t matter how far apart or how long it’s been. There is something defining about losing your parents. I appreciate your constant support and encouragement, my forever friend. Love you!

  4. Once again, you’ve hit home. When my youngest was born, I panicked when my mom-in-law left. She left us for her heavenly home this year, and I question if I will ever be the “Nana” she was. I won’t, but the baton has been passed, and I will be the best “CiCi” I can figure out how to be! Thanks again, friend.

    1. I know your grief is still fresh, too. But I’m putting my money on you that you can continue and even improve that legacy and make it your own. You know I have admired your family for many years and love you all dearly. It makes my day to hear from you.

  5. Losing my dad was like a comma, but then losing my mother so unexpectedly and so soon after my dad, was a period. An ending. So sorry for your experiencing the same. Thank you for putting into words and reminding us as we receive the baton, to take the best parts of our moms, and become it. Great writing and such wisdom.

    1. I love that…losing your dad was like a comma and losing your mother was more like a period. So well stated. That is exactly the feeling. So many endings this week that were just pauses a few months ago. Sorry we carry this mutual experience, but grateful for people that understand. Thank you for sharing your insight.

  6. WOW. Your words hit home. You were very fortunate to have such a giving mom. I’m sure the lessons she taught you have been passed down to your 3 wonderful kids. My heart breaks for you as you mourn her passing. Love you sweet friend ❤️❤️

    1. Martha, your prayers and encouragement have carried me through many difficult experiences. I am indebted to you and will always cherish our friendship. You are right, I was blessed with wonderful parents.

  7. Lori,
    This was so beautifully written. I am so sorry for the loss of both of your parents. Your words are so wise and spoke right to my heart. I feel that there are many roles I play during this season of life. Thank you though, for reminding me of my purpose!! ❤️ Covering you in prayer sweet friend.

    1. I remember being where you are, Kia. Dell and I used to say we were living the dream, but life was so full. And I remember being so tired! At every stage, I’ve struggled to keep sight of my purpose. These last few months have challenged that again, for sure. Thank you for the prayers. So great to hear from you.

    1. Thanks, Amanda. I’m just hoping I carry my mama’s best parts well, even though they may look different. Blessings!

  8. Thanks for another lovely reflection, Lori and for the other free resources. You are such an inspiration.
    Leigh Ann Zeller

  9. Lori,

    Today would have been Dad’s 89th birthday. It’s the first one I’ve ever navigated without out him here in my world. Thanksgiving celebrations were always a joined with his special day. He was sharp and full of energy for a guy his age. Then, he was gone.

    I finally had the chance to read this post, and I see that God planned it that way. Your words are beautiful, addressing so much in my heart too.

    1. Your dad was so loved. I felt a special connection to him when he taught me social studies in 8th grade. I see his gentleness and kindness in you. My mama was also full of life and wit the last time I saw her. It just makes it so hard to believe they’re gone. This missing is a difficult place to be during the holidays and birthdays. You will be in my thoughts and prayers this week.

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